“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment."If you had a chance to become someone else for a day, who would you want to be? Often, this questions comes across my mind. I feel like typical people, perhaps, you and I, would want to be someone great. Someone popular, pretty or even our very own best friends. And you know, it's become a habit for us to constantly admire people around us. It's a good thing, it really is. I'm not denying that fact. But it's just that as we admire others, we evidently forget ourselves.
That's sad, isn't it? We have always been looking up to people to only end up despising ourselves. At the end of the day, we don't want to become the true us. We laugh because we feel like there's a need to, behave the way people would want us to and keep everything to our vulnerable selves. It may seem rare, but believe me. I believe that there's a million people out there including the people around you who find this familiar.
"The need to fit in to avoid people's judgements."
Everyone does it so it becomes weird if you don't. If you don't, people stray away from you. And to avoid that, we behave the way everyone does because we fear. It's that sense of insecurity that fears us, and that, we're gonna be alone at the end of the day. It's scary, just thinking about it. And that's probably why we try to fit in and hide our true selves. We feel like people are watching us, observing our every move, judging us. And so, it gradually becomes a habit to behave how a person should behave to avoid embarrassment and judgement. It's atrocious that everyone's hiding behind a mask but at the same time, we can't do without it. God shapes us in many different ways, hence different characters and faces. We differ from one another because each and everyone of is unique in every single way.
"YOU are SPECIAL"
Apply the same logic then. If we're all different and special in different way, why should we then feel the need to blend in with the majority and do what everyone does? In fact, there's no need to. This logic is made up by how society has been brought up and we can either choose to conform to it. Or go against it. If the world was full of insecure people, then where do we find happiness? Real happiness. It's indeed fortunate that around us, there are people who love themselves for who they are and it's obvious. You can see the gleam in their eyes. It's not mascara, contact lens that make their eyes special but it's that gleam that tells you all they want to be is themselves. Their true selves instead of convering up their insecurities. It's okay, you know, to be insecure. It's okay to be vulnerable. It's okay, you don't have to hide them. Show them, show your insecurities. Don't hide them, this is what makes you special and different from the rest. Judgement is unavoidable. I've heard that a person automically makes an impression of a person in 7 seconds and you can tell, it's pretty short. But if all we had were 7 seconds, you either go big or go home. Be confident, show them what you're made up of, truly. There are going to be people who don't like you. Yes, this is reality. This is not a happily-ever-after land. It's unavoidable, again. But again, we have the choice to be affected or shake it off with humour. And because, it's so rare to have people being so true and real, there are going to be people who find you interesting to befriend and who knows, he/she could be your closest best friend. This is what the world is about. There are going to be times where things get hard or you feel like giving up. But above all that, one thing that people lack is being true to who they are. It's gratifying to be able to live according to who you truly and be surrounded with people who truly treasure you for who you are. Live a life you want to have and not projected to what others want you to. Say 'No' to things you don't want to do and stand firm in your beliefs.
It's your call to be yourself.
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