It's Okay because We're only Humans.

'Crying is all right in its way while it lasts. But you have to stop sooner or later, and then you still have to decide what to do.'

-C.S. Lewis, The Silver Chair (Chronicles of Narnia, #4)

We all have probably had that one awfully sickening bad day at school or at work— I assume to be. And when we get home, we scramble for the keys in your pocket and unlock the house door, only to lock it afterwards and dash to the comfort of your bedroom before locking it. Before you know it, tears are already rolling down your cheeks. One drop. Two drops. And finally you break down. 

I'm pretty sure that it is normal to behave that way from personal experience as well as considering the society we are in in present-day. I wouldn't say things go well all the time and in fact, they don't. Not all the time. But the times where you were hoping it had actually did. 

Why do we cry? 

I'm not going to be all scientific here because I'm not a science person duh but here's what I think. I believe it's an act triggered by an emotional impact in us. It could be due to overwhelming happiness or sadness but in this case, I'd be referring to sadness. 

Simply because today, I want to convey this message to you that it's okay to cry. It's okay to break down and it's simply okay for your walls to crumble because from my point of view, crying is perhaps unexpectedly the most ideal way to let out frustration or grief. When we cry, we're letting our walls crumble for a minute or two. When we cry, it's simply because there are situations where we don't think we can continue handling them anymore. It's good to cry, in fact but what's next after crying?

1. Wiping your tears

Duh. Do wipe them only after you're satisfied enough. Dry your tears so that another tear will never roll down again. Basically meaning it's time to get back up again.

2. Think through

Majority of people cry when something happens. It could be a loved one who had just passed on or it could be that you're feeling done with everything or others more. However, crying is not the solution to everything and a good efficient way is to really sit down and think through the ways you can overcome it. Could it be that you're thinking too much? If not, what are the steps you should take? If you miss someone, call them. If you want to talk to someone, text them. If you're feeling down, talk to a friend. As simple as that. You see, everything in life seems too conplicated but if we think again, hey! It's ourselves who are making things difficult. The lack of courage to talk or text someone. It's not easy to pick up your courage but isn't that way better than having to muddle over an issue and end up spoiling your moods? 

3. Moving on

Deep in our hearts, we know that moving on is often the simplest yet the hardest. But trust me, by putting down the weight that you volunteered to carry ( can you even believe that ), you will be able to let go of the past and move on to a brighter future with hopes and achievements  because who knows? So go out there and get yourself going!

Lastly, do remember that everything happens for a reason. Be it happy or sad, it's either you gain a treasure or you learn the right way to gain a treasure.

      © owner

Best Of Luck.

Priscilla.

Choices

'In the space between yes and no, there's a lifetime. It's the difference between the path you walk and the one you leave behind; it's the gap between who you thought you could be and who you really are; its the legroom for the lies you'll tell yourself in the future.'    - Jodi Picoult

Today, I want to talk about choices. In our everyday lives, we make decisions for practically everything. What should we wear in the morning? What breakfast shall I have? These mere yet important decisions actually, surprisingly, determine the start of a beautiful day. For example, if we choose not to have breakfast, we might suffer from gastrics later ok the afternoon but if you had chosen to have breakfast, you are most probably able to carry out the day with a fresh mind. In general, choices can be said as a stepping stone in a life journey. 

Why do we make choices? 

There are instances where we need to make a quick yet wise judgement. A situation that requires the need to be decided with different choices. 

Making the wrong choice 

Though we make choices all the time, there will be a time where we make a wrong choice. For example, mixing with the wrong company. Making a bad choice may result in dire consequences. And at that point of time, our walls start to crumble. We start to lose hope and wonder what's the solution to end it all. Yes, I've been there. Everyone has probably been there. But what keeps us going is the mental strength in us to believe the reasons behind our choices. We may have made a wrong judgement but there's always a turning point as long as you're willing to learn and treat this as a lesson. 

Believing in our choices

A choice that you make may not necessarily be approved or recognized by everyone and in here, I'm referring to a choice made with the right principles. We start to hesitate and wonder if we should forsake our decisions. But remember that when the world is against you, you need to prove them wrong. Prove to them that you have made the right choice through your actions. Because nothing will start unless we do.

Learning from our choices

Regardless of whether we made a right or a wrong choice, be grateful for the consequences because you're likely to end up with either a blessed ending or an ending which proves as an important lesson to instill values in us. 

To end it off, remember to take charge of your life and make the right choices for our destinies lie in our hands!

    ^Choices with principles applied (of course !)

Best of Luck

Priscilla x

Post Concert Depression

Okay so yesterday was literally the best night of my life💖 I had bought tickets to EXO's The Lost Planet Concert in Singapore and was basically screaming the moment I entered the stadium😭 ( as in how do you expect me to stay cool and calm like a cucumber when I'm finally seeing the people I've only been seeing on a screen😭 ) 

Anyway, the moment it started, everyone was waving the silver light stick and wow. Just one word. Spectacular😻. When the members appeared at the starting, I could hardly even believe my naked eyes. Am I really seeing them? Are they really EXO? I was shocked, surprised or even crying tears of joy ( I don't even know😭 )

I'll just upload 2 pictures because 

1) there are fans who take pictures from sites without credits

2) that isn't the main focus of my post today

But I wasn't too sure whether it was a dream. It felt surreal enough to think that I'm finally seeing them. At the same time, it was as if the dream had ended and boom. Back to reality. When I woke up this morning, I felt a little empty. It's like everything's over. And it might just be the very last time of my life. I'm not too sore when these emotions will die down but for now, I think I'll still be a little lost and a bit of everything.🙍 But one thing I know for sure is that this will end until the second time I put myself through this torturous obstacle once again😌

We're only humans :)

I guess humans are humans, aren't they? 

At some points, we feel like we're not good enough or people around us make us feel inferior. It's the human mind, I must say. It's a basic instinct to feel a little down after knowing that you're not good as others or it's just you feeling that way. Different emotions in 365 days. It's important to feel sad because we're only humans and that it shows that we do care at times. But It's even more very important to know the reason behind certain emotions. 

Ask yourself. Why am I angry? Or why am I sad? Why am I feeling this way? Is it because someone had upsetted you? Or is it just one of those  bad days? 

I can't list out every situation and to provide solutions as to why and how. 

But here's five ways that might hopefully help you :

1. Do something that you enjoy.

Sports? Music? Or simply just staying home and treating yourself to a good sensational book ;) Go out there and find something that you like to do. We're all  of different characters and growing under different situations but I'm pretty sure that each and everyone of us has something to develop and you can take that first step to something bigger than what you've ever imagined! :) 

2. Laugh Out Loud

Even the best medicine in the world can certainly never beat this, I must say. LAUGHTER HAHAHA !!!!! The best way to relax and stay chill is to just laugh your way through phases and really, try not to be too tensed up all the time for you might be actually hiding that fun self in you. Laughter's not that hard to find though. All you have to do is to dial a favourite person and start chatting away and before you realise it, I certainly guarantee that you'll be feeling better in no time! Because a laughter a day keeps the mood swings away!  But wait, note that you should try to get back on track if you're laughing like a mad man every second HAHAHA ( did I make you laugh ) 

3. Eat and Exercise

The realistic idea of being happy is to treat ourselves well just simply because when our bodies are in a good condition, we naturally feel better. Just like how a bad hair day would affect how we perform for the day. It really goes down to what we're especially particular in. Eat more vegetables and treat yourself to a tub of ice-cream on certain days where nothing can really make us feel better. Fruits would definitely be the best source of fibre too! 

We all know having to wake up early in the morning to jog is definitely a chore but it's said that the human mind tend to be wider awake and fresher as we exercise in the morning. Take the effort to wake up an hour or two earlier in the morning to jog around your neighbourhood or simply stretch at home to loosen up your tensed muscles in the morning! Plenty of plain water will definitely do the trick to have brighter and clearer skin and of course, keeping the body in good condition and shape!

4. Keep track of your life

A diary would be the ultimate key. Keeping track of the things you do each day helps to set your goals and to achieve them step by step. 

Take a short 5 minutes to recollect the events that had happened recently and note them all down on a book! Or simply in your handy phone! As we face different phases of life, there are times where we need to learn how to sit back and think about the happy days but when we're done, it's time to move on gurl!

5. Be positive

Nothing can be better than having good thoughts. Mixing with our loved ones and having common interests to stay active and naturally, we'll start to have dreams and work for them. By having good thoughts, the people around us will feel comfortable and will certainly enjoy our company! Look at beautiful things happening around us. Birds chirping, the lovely sunrise and a hearty breakfast. Being optimistic will allow you to feel good about yourself and the way we should treasure ourselves every day! Start today by thinking and feeling good!

6. gasps* I think this is really necessary although I've added another way though 

Be yourself.

To love the people around you, you have to start by loving yourself and just be simply you. Don't let what others say matter to you. Laugh and joke around a little, it definitely makes life easier rather than having to think over every small little thing and in turn, affect your emotions! Don't hide your true self for real friends or loved ones will definitely be standing by you regardless of what happens. 

You may be imperfect but hey! Everyone's imperfect too! Show your skills and improve on your flaws as you take every day by a step. 

Isn't that what life's all about?

Best of luck to each and everyone of you!

Remember to stay happy!

p.s

Priscilla

Idols & Me

' The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much and forgetting that you are special too ' - Anonymous

There's always someone we chase after or admire in our hearts and minds.
For today, let's just shift our focus to celebrities. We often talk about how good or how handsome a celebrity is. We start to buy their albums or even buy their merchandise. But it doesn't stop there. We start to relate everything in our lives to this certain celebrity. We start hoping that one day, we'll meet him/her. We start thinking further and start thinking about how would it be like if we actually met him/her. It'll be really cool. Really. Our fantasies start getting bigger and an obsession starts. Obsessing with someone who doesn't even know you exist. Thinking how would it be like if we actually met that celebrity and fell in love. That sounded impossible, didn't it? But trust me, I'm sure this thought crossed the minds of many fans out there.

We may think that at this moment, everything seemed almost perfect. Almost. But just missing something. Wait, what, how is it possible? Shouldn't everything be perfect now? 

No. It's not perfect because we're forgotten something.

Ourselves. We've forgotten ourselves. Scroll through your camera roll. I'm sure there are more photos of your celebrity compared to photos of you. Well, at least the majority. In the midst of chasing our dreams of our celebrities, we've gotten a little lost and are currently trapped in a maze. Unless we start thinking, we'll be stuck in there unknowingly. Put away thoughts of your celebrity. And think about what you've done for yourself. Are you happy? Really? 

Answer yourself honestly. To be honest, I was once there. I was once a hardcore fan of someone. But something woke me up. This certain celebrity had started dating. You could say it was a great shock to me. No, I wasn't shocked though. I knew this day was coming. After all, after putting so much effort into someone, and this piece of news just makes you feel betrayed, doesn't it? Spending a whole day copping at home admiring this person instead of taking the time to bond with your friends. You'd feel as if your whole life had just taken a 180 degrees turn. However, at the end of the day, I couldn't possibly blame anyone but myself.

If only I had drawn a line between a fan and something else and maybe I wouldn't be that affected by the news. If I had drawn a line between a fantasy and reality, maybe none of those would have really happened. I'm still a fan though but still currently in the process of learning to draw that line :) 

So really what I want to say is that you can be a fan but do make sure that it's a healthy hobby that truly makes your life happier and does not give you mood swings and causes you to stray away from your loved ones because after all, at the end of the day, the ones waiting for you at home or helping you at work or at school are the ones whom you should truly respect and admire for they would always be there for you no matter what.

Best Of Luck :-) 

Priscilla x

p.s. I've been so so SOOO glad that I've actually received a comment on my blog. A very first comment. Thank you :-)) I'd love to see more comments rolling in because THE MORE THE MERRIER HAHAHA :-)) 

The World Doesn't Go The Way I Want It To

'Everything happens for a reason.'

 

We all have something in mind. Something that we want to do. We hope we get to do what we want to just because it makes us happy. I think we all have our turns at times. What I mean is that it's not always us under the limelight all the time. But because we are too used to being under the limelight, we start to be complacent because we start taking things for granted. And when the spotlight is suddenly shining on others, you feel................... empty. You feel that you should be the one and not others. You should be the main character or role. You should be in charge. The light should be on you. That's wrong. If you're having that mindset all the time, it just simply means that you've forgotten your original motive. To do well in something. To ace the test. To be the main character of a musical. To be the indispensable one. No one is indispensable. The world doesn't stop even if someone is gone. Likewise, not everything goes our way all the time. We probably won't be able to understand why but by putting ourselves in others' shoes, we will begin to empathize with others and at the same time, we start to be aware of the fact that others too, deserve a turn. And it's not just me, me and me all the time. 

It's okay if we don't get our turn this time.

It's okay if our turn hasn't arrived yet. I won't be able to predict who's turn will come next. But trust yourself. Not anyone but yourself. Trust in whoever you believe in. Do your best. And only then, I'm pretty sure your turn's definitely only a second away! 

Best of luckk :)

Love,

Priscilla 

The Little Things We Often Forget

'When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote 'happy'. They told me I didn't understand the assignment and I told them they didn't understand life.'

— John Lennor

As we grow up, just like caterpillars turning into pupa, we're often influenced by the people or things around us. Whether at work or at school. And as we develop, we start to forget the things that used to make us happy easily. I remember begging my mom the whole week just to buy me a can of sweets and having her to read a book to me before I went to bed or I wouldn't sleep. I would make sure my sister gets the blue bed sheet while I always got the pink dotted one and would have 'pillow wars' all night before we were finally exhausted and had to go to bed feeling sweaty. Though it's fun having to grow up, but at times, it gets a little tiring. When we were 5, friends would make up as soon as they started quarreling. When we were 5, we could go out without having to matter what we wore. When we were 5, nothing else really mattered because all we did was to be happy all day long.

       see that ^ ( cr : owner )

Just being happy. Now that we've grown up, we start to have desires. Desiring power and status. Wealth and Fortune. And while we're busy striving for these, we are slowly forgetting about the little child in us. As long as we're humans, we'd all miss rolling down the grass hill or having roller skate shoes that would carry us wherever we went to. It's good to learn to grow up because we all have to one day. We can't be like Peter Pan and Tinkerbell in Neverland. It never works this way. Think about the fun times you had and relieve those moments again just simply because we technically only have this life. Just one life. Instead of spending your entire lifetime seeking wealth, seek for something else that matters more than status and authority. As for me, I'm pretty sure I've found mine but it's a tiny little secret hehehehe 

What about yours? Have you found yours today? Share it with me in the comments section :) 

I'd love to hear from everyonee~

Love,

Priscilla